Woman Uncensored posted a followup to her post "Let Her Cry," and I thought I'd share:
http://womanuncensored.blogspot.com/2010/01/hell-no-cio.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+WomanUncensored+%28Woman%2C+Uncensored%29
Nutshell: CIO is against your baby's nature, and against yours--and the baby isn't the only one who suffers. She includes a good resource: http://www.pinky-mychild.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=22:the-con-of-controlled-crying&catid=11:sleep&Itemid=36
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Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Let Her Cry It Out
I've heard this well-meaning advice offered to a bunch of tired, freaked-out new parents. I have strong feelings about it, and I think I scared off anyone who may have wanted to offer it to me, but regardless, it is common, and usually I don't say much when hearing it other than to offer a confrontation-free "here's another way to do it that worked for us."
This blog post changed the way I think about letting one's baby cry. I knew it wasn't optimal for them--it raises their stress hormones, which impedes their ability to learn and grow, and makes it difficult to learn the first lesson a newborn has to learn: that his or her parents are there and will care for them. But Woman Uncensored offers her own perspective as a victim of the Cry-It-Out method and thinking.
http://womanuncensored.blogspot.com/2009/12/just-let-her-cry.html
Nutshell: In early pregnancy, WU was ill to the point that she could not care for herself and was dependent entirely on her husband for her every need. He took wonderful care of her during the day, but at night he completely ignored her pleas for food, to go to the bathroom, even for the comfort of his arms. He was counseled by his mother to 'let her cry,' that she was only manipulating him. Eventually she stopped asking--not because she learned to be satisfied, but because she despaired of receiving help. To an adult invalid, this is called abuse. What is it to a baby?
Further resources:
Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies
A comparison of Dr. Ferber's method of sleep training (Ferber is frequently associated with cry-it-out philosophy) with Dr. Sears', an attachment parenting authority.
I just have to note that this one attributes Dr. Ferber as saying that a child throwing up or defecating on himself out of frustration and/or fear isn't reason to stop. Consult your instincts.
This blog post changed the way I think about letting one's baby cry. I knew it wasn't optimal for them--it raises their stress hormones, which impedes their ability to learn and grow, and makes it difficult to learn the first lesson a newborn has to learn: that his or her parents are there and will care for them. But Woman Uncensored offers her own perspective as a victim of the Cry-It-Out method and thinking.
http://womanuncensored.blogspot.com/2009/12/just-let-her-cry.html
Nutshell: In early pregnancy, WU was ill to the point that she could not care for herself and was dependent entirely on her husband for her every need. He took wonderful care of her during the day, but at night he completely ignored her pleas for food, to go to the bathroom, even for the comfort of his arms. He was counseled by his mother to 'let her cry,' that she was only manipulating him. Eventually she stopped asking--not because she learned to be satisfied, but because she despaired of receiving help. To an adult invalid, this is called abuse. What is it to a baby?
Further resources:
Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies
A comparison of Dr. Ferber's method of sleep training (Ferber is frequently associated with cry-it-out philosophy) with Dr. Sears', an attachment parenting authority.
I just have to note that this one attributes Dr. Ferber as saying that a child throwing up or defecating on himself out of frustration and/or fear isn't reason to stop. Consult your instincts.
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